I’ve been thinking a lot about that high expectations, low success rate dilemma these days. It has much to do with why I’m leaving education at the end of this school year (on the part of the youth, their parents, the administration and up the chain). Do you think this addiction to disappointment stems from our Gen Z upbringing? Or being an angst-ridden teen? Or perhaps both?
I don't feel like I'm addicted to disappointment so much as I have higher expectations for the world and people around me than has proven realistic. Which doesn't stem from wanting them to fail me so much as it's expecting them to hold themselves to the same standards I do, which are probably kinda unhealthy and veering sharply into "workaholic" territory. But I will absolutely put myself last in order to help someone out or finish a task to my own satisfaction and most people don't feel that way. Which may be overall healthier for them but leaves me feeling like I'm always the one holding the bag.
Exactly! I am the same way. I don’t WANT to be disappointed but I keep setting myself up by expecting others to have the same work ethic as I do. I’m also left holding the hag which breeds resentment.
As a Gen Xer, I was a latchkey kid who made dinner for my family 4 days a week. Dinner had to be on the table at 5:30 when my parents walked through the door. I had my own babysitting business at age 11. I had my first legal job at 15. I’m wondering if that work ethic we learned as Gen X “raise yourself” generation created this unhealthy relationship with work.
I’ve been thinking a lot about that high expectations, low success rate dilemma these days. It has much to do with why I’m leaving education at the end of this school year (on the part of the youth, their parents, the administration and up the chain). Do you think this addiction to disappointment stems from our Gen Z upbringing? Or being an angst-ridden teen? Or perhaps both?
I don't feel like I'm addicted to disappointment so much as I have higher expectations for the world and people around me than has proven realistic. Which doesn't stem from wanting them to fail me so much as it's expecting them to hold themselves to the same standards I do, which are probably kinda unhealthy and veering sharply into "workaholic" territory. But I will absolutely put myself last in order to help someone out or finish a task to my own satisfaction and most people don't feel that way. Which may be overall healthier for them but leaves me feeling like I'm always the one holding the bag.
Exactly! I am the same way. I don’t WANT to be disappointed but I keep setting myself up by expecting others to have the same work ethic as I do. I’m also left holding the hag which breeds resentment.
As a Gen Xer, I was a latchkey kid who made dinner for my family 4 days a week. Dinner had to be on the table at 5:30 when my parents walked through the door. I had my own babysitting business at age 11. I had my first legal job at 15. I’m wondering if that work ethic we learned as Gen X “raise yourself” generation created this unhealthy relationship with work.